Javanese traditions

I have realized a few traditions from my ancestral root.

1. Javanese likes sweet culinary, that's common news. However, did you know... serving tea also has its customary. Tea with a lot of sugar is considered honoring the guest, without or less of it would means being disrespectful and sorry to say, gives indication of being less fortunate. Therefore, if you ever visit surrounding mid-java (jawa tengah) for a long period of time, you'd come back with massive sugar rush. *Lol

2. After yesterday's funeral, I came about a tradition of part mid-java that is too interesting to be missed.
Did you know... when men died, women can't attend the burial (not sure if family included in this customary or not). However, when women died, men are allowed to attend and assist the process. I can't understand the logic in this.

3. I had conversation with a colleague one time, she said from her tradition root, it's unordinary to have soon-to-be mother-in-law to shop everything for seserahan (groom giveaway items). Whilst, for javanese, the mother-in-law-to-be is in control of everything to be given to the bride (some may without any prior agreement with the bride or her wants). Mothers are selfish that way sometimes, when giving away their kids.



Update later after further observations.. :)